But what does he REALLY mean?

Frump answers your questions about what he means when he says....

Q. There’s this guy at my gym who I think is a total babe. He’s like Brad Pitt, but without all the kids and weird personality quirks. I’d been throwing out the bait for about three weeks but he just wasn’t biting. So, I asked him out and he said “Um, yeah…I’m gonna have to go with “no” on this one. I don’t find you interesting or attractive.” Could it be that he is intimidated by my boldness and because of that, he panicked and told me no? Do you think that maybe he has been hurt really bad and just has a knee-jerk reaction like that to women? What does he really mean?

A. He means he doesn’t find you interesting or attractive and doesn’t want to go out with you. Next!


Q. My husband told me last week that he is leaving me because he doesn’t love me anymore. Do you think that maybe he is just testing me to see if I will chase after him? Maybe he thinks I don’t love him anymore and he is fishing to see how I’ll react. Maybe he is hoping I’ll beg him to stay, and then we’ll run across a field in slow motion straight into each other’s arms, and spin around while a love song plays in the background and the sun glints off of my long flowing hair. Well, I’ll have to buy a wig because my hair is rather short. But still… What do you think?

A. I think he is leaving you because he doesn’t love you anymore. *sigh* Come on, people. It’s not that hard.


Q. My boyfriend of six years says he loves me but he just can’t bring himself to marry me. Do you think that deep down, he wants me to ask him? I mean, maybe he is insecure and thinks I’ll turn him down. Perhaps I should buy an engagement ring for him to give me? Do you think that would prod him along? What is he really trying to say?

A. He is saying that he doesn’t want to marry you.

Get the pattern here? Men are not women. They say what they mean, so don’t look for any hidden messages. There aren’t any.

You’re welcome.